A new study done by the UK Daily Male indicates that what was once known as the 7 year itch, is now being deemed the “3 year glitch”. According to the study couples are getting bored of one another after only 3 years together and, divorcing after 8 years.
The study shows that the average married couple only spends 14 hours a week together, now what I want to know is this quality time or actual time? How can you expect to connect and be in love with someone, let alone be intimate with someone you only see 14 hours a week? I spend more time than that with my best friend. While work and children have always been top priority for any couple, now days it seems as though technology is also a major distraction.
With the internet, text messaging, and Facebook, I think more and more people are just losing face time. No one talks face to face anymore and for some people that I have encountered it seems as though if they want to find out how their partner is feeling they check their Facebook status. While I see nothing wrong with Facebook or texting, I do both, but, I also use them as tools and Facebook is not my life. I don’t think I’ve done a status update in 3 months.
But, it is not only technology that is draining the romance out of relationships, the study listed snoring, lack of money, anti-social working hours, lack of sexy underwear, too much exposure to the in-laws, and the number one romance killer was gaining weight, for both men and women. In my opinion its laziness and selfishness, if you really love someone and the fact that they snore makes you want to run out and get a divorce then you shouldn’t be married in the first place because everyone snores sometimes and no one is perfect. I really feel that our generation doesn’t view marriage as it should be, a union of two people, two different people, and when you say those vows you say them before God and your family and promise to love one another for “better or worse”, till death do you part. People get married way too young and cant see past love and lust to really understand that relationships change, people change and its hard work for the rest of your life.
You don’t have to be married to be in love, take your time when making such major life decisions because a divorce does not only affect you it affects your children as well, and the example that your setting for them is that when times get tough, just throw in the towel and give up. So my advice is to keep the romance alive, have a date night once a week, bring home flowers or leave little love notes for one another around the house, hold hands, and ladies, be sexy for your man. Do the things you know he likes, wear lingerie, give him a lap dance, and show him that hes still sexy because sometimes the men feel insecure just like we do. I’m no expert but, I have been with my fiancee for 7 years and we still act like we did when we first met.Tags: marriage, men and women, relationships, sex, UK Male